It’s true.  How you think about yourself, how you treat yourself, and what you say to yourself affects all of your other relationships from friend to lover, child to parent and parent to child.

When you get up in the morning and look into the mirror do you say, “I love you just the way you are!”  Or do you look for more lines and wrinkles, bags and sags and then go on to count them and complain about your hair.

You say things to yourself that you would never say to your best friend.  Worst than that, you’ll easily forgive a friend for an infraction and yet beat yourself over the head for the slightest mistake.  Everyone makes mistakes.  That’s how we learn.  If you didn’t learn from your mistake don’t worry about it because you’ll get another chance to make the same mistake again until you do learn.

You are with yourself 24/7.  There’s no getting away from it.  If you want a solid, loving relationship with someone, the best thing you can do to promote it is to love yourself.  This is not being prideful.  This is being smart.  Think about it this way….

If you were flying in a plane through turbulence and the oxygen masks dropped down, you need to put yours on first before you can help anyone else with theirs.  Why is that?  If you don’t take care of yourself – in this case, by getting enough oxygen – then you could easily pass out before you help anyone and then who will be able to help you?

When you take care of yourself and are 100% fit, fine, and optimistic, then you can give 100% whenever needed, wanted, or necessary.  If you’re only 50% together, you short change everyone including yourself.

If there are things about yourself that you don’t care for, accept the way you are first and go from there.  When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Phran Gacher, CH, Hypnotherapist

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